It’s a funny question when you think about it. What do women
want? I mean, it’s a rather big question, having to think about all the things
you want and generalising. You can ask me in the morning what I want for dinner
that night and I won’t know. It is even more of a shocking question when a guy
asks you what you want. It happened to me on a date once where he looked at me
holding his glass of wine and said “so what is it you want, what are you
looking for?” Ok Mr cheap white wine drinker, I want to leave this date and
look for a taxi! It surely is like the no no of all questions on a date, right?
Because if I tell you that I want to find a serious relationship, you will
agree, making me think oh he isn’t such an asshole or a player, next thing I
know we are drunk and in bed and then he doesn’t call? Bitch please!
But when it comes to guys, I guess we, as women, kind of do
know what we want. My friends reading this will probably wonder if I know all
of what women want as they know I do not think like your average woman. See, in
the word woman there is the word man. I seem to be able to think like both.
When it comes to dating and sex, yes, I do think like a man. When it comes to
relationships, I am the ultimate woman. (PS, I am learning to cook and bake for
all you sexy males reading this.)
So here I am about to give a list of what women want. The
girly girls, the boyish girls, the psycho stalking kind of girls, the girls who
don’t give a shit, basically every type of female usually wants the same things
when it comes to relationships. Guys, you are so lucky to be getting this information now!
The list is in no particular order..
1)
Honesty
Without honesty, there is no trust. Trust and understanding is a big thing with
honesty. The minute you lie, you break that trust. Do not fool around with her
feelings under the impression you think you may hurt her. Girls would much
rather be told the truth than be lied to. If we get hurt we can deal with it,
that is what alcohol and Ben&Jerry’s was made for.
2)
Intelligence
Women are attracted to guys that know how to hold a conversation about many
different things other than football and beer. Guys need to flaunt this in a
way that is humble and interesting. Surprise us with your intelligence. Being
knowledgeable is a massive turn on! Do you know something about exotic wines?
Listen to Frank Sinatra? Great, tell us, these are things we would like to
hear. Nothing makes you more sexy than class and intelligence.
3)
Sense Of Humour
This is usually number 1 for me personally. If a guy can make me laugh, I can
fall for him there and then. I love to make people laugh so when someone does
it to me, it’s a wonderful feeling. When a guy makes a girl laugh, she can
forget about her shit day, or the fight she had with her best friend, it’s a
warm and special feeling when a guy makes you giggle. But guys, do not try too
hard. Do not tell me jokes you read from the newspaper whilst on the shitter. Let
it flow, let it come naturally and you can have a girl at your fingertips.
4)
Challenge
Challenge us. Girls like a challenge. We may (some) act like we are waiting for
the phone call or the text message but really we don’t want you to be so clingy
and forward. We like a bit of space and we like a challenge. That doesn’t mean
go be a player and let us find out that you are texting 3 girls at the same
time. It means don’t message us every hour to say hello. Let us miss you, let
us wait a bit, give us something to want!
5)
Be Clean
Yes, this is coming. Guys, have some good personal hygiene skills and trust me,
it will be appreciated. Smell good. Nothing makes a woman’s labia pulsate like
a man with a good smell. I can walk past a man on the street and the whiff of
his aftershave can take me to another level (to a point of stalking, I
literally turned direction to follow a man once cos he smelt so good.) Anyway,
you all expect us to be clean shaven and have good breath and clean hair, well
you need to do the same. Get over your rock star dreams with your unruly,
unwashed and un brushed hair. Trim your pubes. Clean your apartment. Remove the
empty McDonalds packets from your car. Take showers, daily! Oh and also, you
need to have a shower before you expect us to suck your dick (no girl wants to
gag on cheese).
6)
Do Not Give Away Your Power
Guys, want to know what is really sexy? A man with power. Want to know what is
really unsexy? A whipped pussy bitch. Listen, every girl wants their man to
drool over them and give them what they want, but no girl wants her man to give
in to everything. I am a girl who likes to be in control with most things in my
life, so when it comes to men and my relationships, I like a guy to be in
control. Don’t wait for me to pick the restaurant every time, do not tell me “I
don’t mind baby, whatever you want!” GRRRRR have some power, tell us what you
want to do and where you want to go and don’t worry, if we do not like it, we
will tell you. Don’t be scared of us or scared to hurt our feelings. Don’t get
it twisted though; we don’t want to be controlled about each aspect of the
relationship. Yes, a bit of control in bed is good too but let us have our
voice and be heard. Just do not be a guy who lets his woman control him. Once
girls hear and see it, you become so unwanted. There are girls that will
control guys to get what she wants and as soon as she has it and has left your
broke ass dry, she will move on to her next victim. These kind of girls are
masters at what they do and can get any guy to fall for them. She will
basically emotionally rape you.
7)
Generosity
Women love men who can be generous. This doesn’t mean spending your whole
paycheck on us. It doesn’t even have to be on us. It doesn’t even have to be
money, can be time too. I knew a guy once who volunteered once a week at a dog
shelter. Not only do I love dogs, but I love the fact a guy gave up his time to
help them providing them love. Unfortunately, his love for women was not as
good but he was such a decent guy and I had so much love and respect for him.
Of course we love it when guys buy us a little present here and there or
provide us with their time, especially on football Sundays – but guys, be
generous in the bedroom too. There are girls who love sex just as much as you
do, and should you be good at it, we will keep running back for more. You could
be the world’s most handsome, kind and funny man, but should you lack skills in
the bedroom, we will forget you. Read a book, watch some tutorials get it right
and you will win.
8)
Romance
You know what, romance is dead these days. There is too much talking, not
enough doing. Guys will message girls all this bullshit over the phone but
never back up their actions. Where is chivalry these days? Connect with us
emotionally and that is golden. Romance does not have to be gifts. This is
where guys get mistaken. Open a door for me, give me your hand when I am
getting out of the car, pull out my chair – that is romantic. We aren’t
expecting you to be a knight in shining armour, I mean usually we get assholes
in tin foil these days but it is the little things that count. These are the
things that can sweep a girl off of her feet. Don’t get me wrong, if I liked a
guy and he came below my window playing one of my favourite love songs like
“Have I Told You Lately That I Love You” (Rod Stewart Version) or “The Way You
Look Tonight” (Westlife’s version) I would collapse and have to pinch myself to
check I wasn’t in a dream because ultimately, it is EVERY girls dream for
something like that to happen.. You would have my heart! Ok, well back to
reality we go.. Guys, be romantic god damn it!
9)
Be Yourself!
Guys, you know what pisses me off? When we go on a date and you say all the
right things and then I get to know you better and everything you said was just
a complete haystack of bullshit lies! Do not talk shit just to impress a girl.
Be yourself. Girls are happiest when they can be themselves around guys. Don’t
lie and make stuff up because you think it will impress us. We may be impressed
for all of ten minutes but when we found out you lied, we will be least
impressed for all of ten years. Trust me when I say this, if you are a bit of a
geek, go with it. Girls love a guy with an inner geek. If your idea of a
perfect date is going to a theme park rather than dinner or drinks then take
us. We want to know the real you from early on to identify if you can be the
man for us. Be you and don’t pretend and you will get far.
10)
Loyalty
I will tell you what can get a girls knickers in a twist bigger than watching
Channing Tatum in Magic Mike, and that is when a guy in disloyal. As females,
we know the male species have it in them to be a “player” or a bit of a
commitment-phobe. Don’t worry, I have lived as the number 1 emoshaphobe, I know
all the ways of living un-attached. Just because you aren’t in a ‘serious’
relationship with someone yet, does not mean you can’t be loyal. If you are
dating someone, you know what, forget about the other girls for the time being.
Give her all of your attention. There is nothing worse than finding out the guy
you are dating took another girls number or was seen chatting girls up. If you
continue to act like this, you will get nowhere. If you respect us and actually
respect yourself too, then be a gentleman and be loyal. It won’t kill you.
