Monday, 24 June 2013
So I just got an email from one of my readers, here is what it said..
"Hey Lala, I need your help. I think I have fallen in love with this girl. I have never had feelings for a girl like this. Usually I am the player type and I don't care for girls and will sleep with them and not call them, but this girl I feel has changed me. She makes me smile, my heart melts like butter and I want to be a better person for her. I sound like such a pussy right now but I don't know how to behave with these feelings. I saw in an old post of yours that your friends call you an 'emoshaphobe' as you are not one to have feelings either and I feel because of this, I can talk openly and freely to you. What would you do in my situation? How would you act if it was you? I want to write her a letter. I feel like I want to open up to her and my pride and ego won't let me do it in person. Is it ok to write her a letter? I have never felt excitement with a girl like this. Maybe she is the one? HELP ME!
After reading that, I instantly smiled. For me, someone who yes, can be described as a slight emoshaphobe, something like this has touched me. I understand him completely. It is hard to let people in and change your ways but when you get a feeling for someone this strong, you must do everything you can to get the person you want.
(I replied to Samuel separately but here will tell you all how I think/feel about the situation!)
If you like someone then you should forget about your 'player ways' and do what ever you feel right. Sometimes we need to let our guard down to let people in. I understand Sam because I find it hard to let people in and let my walls down but if you meet someone and you feel it is right to do so, then go for it. Don't think about your old ways or what your friends might think of you, just go with it, go with your heart.
The idea of a love letter.. Why the hell not! We are in a generation now where everything is over the internet or a smartphone. It beats a poke on Facebook, a like on Instagram or a text message saying 'you looked reem tonight!' Lets take a note from our grandparents generation where there were no smartphones or tablets (unless you were mates with Moses and his homies because they literally wrote on rock tablets) and things were simple and you were given a letter on a date or posted through your door.
You need to make sure thought if you are going to write someone a love letter that you don't make it too cheesey. You don't want to scare the person off, especially if it is in early stages. Don't write a poem, you are not Shakespere nor are you Ludwig Van Beethoven who wrote a love letter to an unknown love the now famous quote "Ever thine.Ever mine.Ever ours."
Be you! Say what you feel. Say what you think. Do not try and be someone you are not.
The whole concept of the love letter I think is beautiful. When I was 16 (nearly 10 years ago) I had a boyfriend who wrote me a love letter and drew a rose and signed off with his signature. I loved it so much at the time and even now I think back to how romantic it was. I actually still have the letter in my memory box :)
So I decided to do some research and find some love letters from famous people and here are some of my favourites..
Jimi Hendrix to a woman he called his Little Girl..
happiness is within you….so unlock the chains from your heart and let yourself grow—
like the sweet flower you are…..
I know the answer—
Just spread your wings and set yourself
Love to you forever
Richard Burton to ElizabethTaylor...
“My blind eyes are desperately waiting for the sight of you. You don’t realize of course, E.B., how fascinatingly beautiful you have always been, and how strangely you have acquired an added and special and dangerous loveliness.”
Marilyn Monroe to Joe DiMaggio
"I don't know how to tell you just how much I miss you. I love you till my heart could burst. All I love, all I want, all I need is you - forever. I want to just be where you are and be just what you want me to be. I know its lousy of me to be so late so often and I promise to try a million times harder, I promise. I want someday for you to be proud of me as a person and as your wife and as your wife and as the mother of the rest of your children. (two at least! I've decided.)
I miss it so much when you don't love me and hold me and cuddle me to sleep every night. I want to be near you and I feel so sad tonight.
Darling, please don't leave me anymore.
And this has to be one of my all time favourites, ok, it isn't real and is from the film The Notebook but come on, who doesn't love Noah and Allie!
"Dearest Allie. I couldn’t sleep last night because I know that it’s over between us. I’m not bitter anymore, because I know that what we had was real. And if in some distant place in the future we see each other in our new lives, I’ll smile at you with joy and remember how we spent a summer beneath the trees, learning from each other and growing in love. The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that’s what you’ve given me. That’s what I’d hoped to give to you forever. I love you. I’ll be seeing you. Noah.”
Have you ever written a love letter to someone? Has anyone ever written you a love letter? Do you wish we could go old school and be romantic is such a way? I want to hear your thoughts and views!
Lots of love..
Little Miss V..xx
Posted by Little Miss V at 13:55